Don’t Do It For Fame. Don’t Neglect Your Relationships Episode #43

Aaron McHugh


Don’t do it to for fame. Do your work because you have not choice but to do it. Suck the marrow out of life by prioritizing your relationships first.

Podcast Highlights

  • The consequences of pursuing fame as your motivation.
  • Like Thoreau, how do we extract the juices from life?
    “I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life” Henry David Thoreau
  • How I used Twitter to have a five hour #MicroAdventure in Salt Lake City while on a business trip.
  • What is a Eurosled Swiss Bob Merikan Missile?
  • How to stage your life expecting adventure
  • My MicroAdventure snowy trail by headlamp trail details above Park City, UT Iron Canyon Trail
  • The Rob Cast A Prayer For a New Year

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Excerpt from 99 Ways to Life Your Best Life

03 // Don’t do it to pursue fame.

I find this one to be difficult. The truth is I do want to be noticed. Behind that shallow layer of hoping I’m seen, the deeper truth is I want my life to matter. When I am writing, the pursuit of fame can surface with its natural gravitational pull.

Here is how it can sound,

Maybe so-and-so will read this and then he will share it and then his six million followers will read it”.

It is a bit embarrassing to admit, but I believe you’ve heard this whisper also. When I was writing with my focus on being noticed, it was crap. No wonder no one read any of it. When I made the shift to simply be authentic, a few people began to notice. There is great irony in this principle. The more we are authentic and relevant, the more the possibility of being noticed increases.

When the pursuit of fame is our motive, the less authentic and relatable we become. Whatever you are pursuing, do a motive check and remind yourself that what the world really needs is you to be authentically you. That is our best bet for being noticed.

04 // Don’t neglect your relationships.

A friend told me about a saying from his mentor, “The grass is greener wherever you water it.” I’ve been married for over twenty years and I have not always regularly irrigated our relationship. When I was age 25, I thought my wife could be more like xeriscaping: drought-tolerant. Turns out she never signed up for an inch of rain every three months. I’ve learned the hard way that growth comes where you regularly water.

Trust me, your spouse, your friends, your family, your significant other, your sibling, your neighbor, your employees, your child… would gladly receive some relational watering from you.

Go find that watering can.