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Our Compliance is Not Their Fault

Most people sign an unwritten contract every day.

We trade a paycheck for predictability.

Does your arrangement go something like this?

Boss, you give me a predictable every-two-week paycheck, health insurance, projects to work on, lunch breaks, and a Christmas party, and I’ll give you my will, my dignity, my freedom of choice, my security, my sleep, and my future plans for my life.

Like the indentured servant, most employees take on the goals of the crown—the company and the customers—as their priority instead of their own goals. Creating great products and building great companies are wonderful ways to invest in a career, but at what expense?

Too often the objectives of the kingdom—the company—become the only mission. What you want, what you need, or what you value is rarely included in the company’s quarterly objectives.

How frequently have you been asked in your quarterly or annual review,

How is the company treating you?

What can the company do for you?

How can the company help make you a more content, enthusiastic, invigorated, challenged contributor?

The problem is that you have made a trade, an agreement:

You work for them and they believe that their mission—regardless of your feelings about it—should be fulfilling to you.

You will never offer your best if you are constantly editing yourself to keep in step with the contract you signed.

We can end up yielding so much of our true selves that we subject ourselves to emotional tyranny.

Isn’t it true that fear is the driving force behind our compliance?

If we hold conflicting views with our company or leadership, if we desire more than what is offered in the trade, we fear the consequences of standing up for what we desire and believe.

I owe this realization to a coworker.

We were taking a walk in the parking lot together outside of our office when he told me,

“I get it. I sign a contract and accept the terms of the agreement every time I cash a paycheck.”

He was right.

I had a business dealing that accurately depicted this type of contract. It was a contractual agreement between three parties that totaled seven figures over five years.

One of the parties never signed the contract, but they cashed the checks each year for their portion of the compensation.

After a few years the attorneys concluded that even though this party never signed the contract, they were acting according to the contract terms and receiving compensation for doing so.

Therefore, cashing the check was as good as signing the piece of paper.

MY compliance WAs not their fault.

THE UNWRITTEN CONTRACT

Cashing the check is as good as signing the contract.

By cashing my check every two weeks, I was agreeing with the terms of my employment even though I wasn’t externally condoning or agreeing with those terms. I had to take ownership of my participation in the dysfunctional system.

I could no longer blame or point fingers.

I had to become a part of the solution or stop cashing the checks.

*Expert from eBook: Don’t Quit Your Job. Fire Your Boss.

For your complete free copy download here.

How Long Will We Be Working?

It was very common for our grandparents to find a good company and hitch their wagon to it for the next thirty years.

In the post-depression and post-WWII era, finding predictable work was a blessing.

If you were able to work for a company like Ford Motor Company, then you were enrolled in their retirement pension plan.

This golden handcuff tethered you to the company until you reached retirement age, but your contract was mutually beneficial: the company benefited from your investment and you benefited from a reliable income source for the rest of your life.

That has all changed.

Saving for Retirement: We’re going to be working for a while.

Imagine that last week you attended your company’s retirement plan meeting. The young thirty-something presenter showed a chart proclaiming how the stock market boasts a predictable 30-year average rate of return of 10%.

For the last 15 years, however, you’ve only experienced down markets. You follow the advertised best practices, contributing your faithful (x)% every month. but you know that your retirement plan is not the golden handcuff it once was.

Indeed, the Ford Motor Company’s pension plan model vanished with our grandparents’ generation. And the promise of the stock market producing wild amounts of wealth with which we can travel the world and eat caviar does not seem to be panning out, either.

Maybe we shouldn’t try and stay with one company?

The belief that our company’s retirement plan will provide a guaranteed path to financial security is not anything you should count on. Instead, we should accept that you will be working for more years than the thirty-something presenter promised in that meeting.

Let’s not feel obligated to stick it out with any one company for our entire career.

The good news is that when the pension plan vanished, employees received greater freedom of choice. We can make career decisions largely independent of a company retirement plan.

Since most of us won’t end up in early retirement, we should certainly make sure our work is fulfilling.

We are going to be at it for a while and there is no payoff for hanging on to one company.

We are free to choose where to invest your skills and talents.

*Expert from eBook: Don’t Quit Your Job. Fire Your Boss.

For your complete free copy download here.

Your Boss Does Not Hold the Verdict on You

Your boss, customers, company, and coworkers should not hold as much influence on you as they do.

The verdict on your impact, your worth, your genius, and your value is not in their hands.

Too much energy is consumed with interpreting our leadership’s appreciation and acknowledgement of our contribution.

Do your dinner table conversations and dates with your spouse get chewed up with workplace drama?

  • What your boss said
  • What your boss didn’t say
  • How your boss said it
  • Why it should have been said
  • Why it should not have been said

I bet even your spouse is tired of your boss.

Your boss does not hold the verdict on you.

Of course, all of us want to be noticed and appreciated for our workplace contributions, but we often put too heavy a weight on whether or not our boss or company displays appreciation or gratitude for us in the way we desire.

As a result we can internalize feedback or lack there of as a verdict on our workplace value. Although feedback is an indicator, it is not a summary.

Here are some things I have learned that have helped me weather long dry spells of negative feedback or even silence.

Stop doing your work for your boss.

Your idea is not good or bad as a result of the feedback you receive. If you believe you have a great idea, a worthy project, or a good decision, then go for it! Do it because you believe in it and because it is the right thing to do.

Assume the best.

No news is good news. Start heading down the path you believe you should follow and assume the best outcome, assume everyone is supportive, and assume you are going to be successful. If someone in authority has a problem with it, they will tell you so.

Consider the source.

If you consistently receive negative feedback from the same person(s) every time, consider that their negativity might be their own personal problem. It took me a long time to realize that consensus building and democracy is really great most of the time. Some people will never be supportive or helpful. That is just the way they choose to be, and that is OK. Don’t let their negativity stop you from doing your own great work.

Own your mistakes.

If you make a mistake, say so. Own your shortcomings, missteps, bad judgment calls, etc. Most everyone is appreciative and understanding when you say, “I made a mistake. I am sorry.”

Your boss isn’t getting what he needs either.

Yep. Your boss desires the same validation and acknowledgement that you do.  And more than likely if he is not giving it to you, well, he isn’t getting it from his boss, either.

In my story

This one was a massive tectonic shift for me. Once I realized that my boss didn’t have the verdict on me, I was free to do my best work regardless of his or her acknowledgement of it.

It was such a relief.

I had spent so many years attempting to gain the appreciation and confidence of my leaders that I was exhausted.

The truth is, it was like playing a baseball game with one eye on the game and one eye on my boss in the bleachers. As a result, I was never fully in the game because I was more worried about whether or not I was being seen for the great plays I was making.

Now I’ve learned to offer my best work every day and get my head into the game instead of spending so much time wondering what the commentators are saying.

*Expert from eBook: Don’t Quit Your Job. Fire Your Boss.

For your complete free copy download here.

Why Serve Forty Years of Hard Labor?

In medieval times, indentured servants worked the land of a king for a fixed number of years until their debt was paid in full.

The king owned the field, the crop and the harvest yield.

He got rich, he ate and drank as much as he liked, and the servants learned to live on the crumbs from his table.

Kings love servants and minions.

Does this sound familiar to you?

For many people work can be a place where they feel like indentured servants. It

can be a place where they feel obligated and stuck.

Many companies and leadership teams have this same ancient mentality.

They believe that their employees are lucky to work for them.

They believe that each worker is a replaceable cog.

They are looking for compliant workers and employees, who, under the weight of needing to meet their own financial obligations, settle in for forty years of hard labor.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Why approach your workday with this kind of obligation?

I was an Indentured Servant

I realized that my truest desire was for a partnership, not an obligation. I dreamed of being in a business arrangement where the company and I were equally investing in each other.

Believe it or not, it is possible. I found that part of the problem was that I was acting like a factory worker or an indentured servant. In fact, I was training other workers around me to relate to me as a replaceable cog.

Once I could name and describe this arrangement I could begin to navigate and craft a new arrangement. I stopped thinking and acting like an indentured servant and I started being a skilled craftsman instead.

*Expert from eBook: Don’t Quit Your Job. Fire Your Boss.

For your complete free copy download here.

Your Boss, Your Biggest Customer & Your Future

If you believe that your boss, your factory, your pension, or your biggest customer is your only hope for a prosperous tomorrow, then you will do anything to protect those eggs in that lone basket.

You will resign your will, your opinions, your creativity and your passion in trade for self-preservation.

The more you feel like a victim who is subject to the whims of the company or the policies of leadership, the more you feel like a slave to your mortgage payment, the more you will shrink back and keep signing the unwritten contract.

Two choices will always remain:

  1. How will you choose to respond?
  2. How will you choose to interpret your experiences?

You have the power to transform your workplace experience solely based on your interpretations and reactions. Tomorrow, when you return to your office, you can have a brand new job and a new arrangement for your future. But only if you are willing to recalibrate what you believe.

*Expert from Don’t Quit Your Job. Fire Your Boss.  

For your complete free copy download here.

Kill the Giant Squids & Dominate the World

WORLD DOMINATION SUMMIT 2013

When I told Leith, my wife, about the event a few months ago her reaction was “What in the world is that?”

It is an event focused on living a life you want to live vs. accidentally living a life you think you should.

Chris Guillebeau author, world traveler, adventurer and entrepreneur was the gracious host of 3000 fellow world changers.  The WDS team curated an unbelievable lineup of speakers, break out sessions, a mobile app for keeping track of people you met, opening party with a marching band at the Portland Zoo, and on and on.

One ingredient to change the world

If you’ve ever had an idea, a dream, a vision or hope of making something, sharing something, creating something, organizing something then you my friend should have a seat at next year’s WDS 2014.

Changing the world we live in only takes one ingredient,
offering our full self.

I’ve spent many years hiding myself, taking the back seat, waiting for permission, editing the full story and the world was only receiving a faint glimmer of the whole me.

Invitation to offer yourself

Being around 2999 other people who share a similar desire releases an invitation within me.  When you witness another human being offer their truest self it unlocks something in each of us and we are invited to do the same.

The world was flat

I met a guy named Bo that is going to sail around the world by himself.

  • He’s not a record holding sailor.
  • He’s not independently wealthy.
  • Until a few months ago he didn’t even own a sailboat.

There was a time when people would have told Bo,

“Even if you make it past the man-eating squid,
you’re going to sail off the edge of the world and die”
.

Today, the only real obstacles to sailing around the world or dominating your little swatch of the planet are:

The thoughts in our head

I can’t do this.  It’s not going to work.  What will people think?

We all entertain these voices that keep us believing that there is a man-eating squid ready to devour us if we continue down this ridiculous path that we dream about following.

The daring and barely brave go ahead anyway.

Consistently showing up and doing the work

80% is simply showing up faithfully and chipping away at the project, task, or dream.

Bo’s going for it. He bought his sailboat, untied the bow and is shoving off towards the sunset.

What’s our excuse for not leaving the dock?

I need your help!

I’m attempting to expand my patch of world domination to ChangeThis.com.

This is a Manifesto network that distributes ideas that change minds.

My eBook, Don’t Quit Your Job. Fire Your boss is being voted on for acceptance to their network and I have three days left.

Would you be willing to take three seconds to click on the button (bottom of the page) that says “Yes Write this Manifesto”-click here.

How to Love People, Pick Yourself and Watch Less TV

Writing on the plane  

Writing a blog will change your life.

Here is my list on why you should write a blog.

1) Pick yourself

Why wait to be noticed, chosen, picked, plucked, watched, captured or picked up?

Instead go for broke.

They are tough odds to attempt to gain attention from people when they have 160 million other blogs to choose from.

My theory is it might as well be you that get’s picked.  Start with picking yourself.

2) You’ll watch less television

I am all for mindless moments of life, yet I can only do so much of it.  Writing a blog will reduce your television vegetative state.  When you download the calendar scheduler for WordPress you will quickly feel the Type A responsibility to not be a slacker and get working on your next post.

3) You’ll meet people you would never meet

I love meeting new people.  It is absolutely amazing who you will meet, the context in which you will meet them and how you will mutually help each other.

Check out our friends Carter and Brooke who just got engaged.  His whole engagement video was shot with a guy who he met on Instagram.  People they met through Instagram hosted an engagement party for them in Portland OR.

This video is their story.

Their video was recently featured on the worldwide Instagram community.

Yes I know she is pretty.

CARTER AND BROOKE // THE ENGAGEMENT from Colin Cabalka on Vimeo.

4) You never know where it will lead you

I’ve been hired for consulting gigs, had people stop me at dinner parties, my seventeen year old son thinks I am fairly cool and the future feels brighter.
All because I risk putting words and ideas onto this digital page.

Doing nothing new today will provide you a 100% guarantee that nothing new will happen.

Start risking today and you’ll be surprised how many things you’d think would fail just might work.

You won’t believe who will say “Yes” if you just ask.

Adventure is around the next corner.

Here is a quick list of some of the massively interesting people I have met because of this blog:

Jeff Goins blogs @Goinswriter

Srinivas Rao blogs @ The Skool of Life

Jeremy Stratton blogs @Living Better Stories

Todd Henry blogs @The Accidental Creative

5) You will live with more hope in humanity

People are inherently good, yet any trip to the grocery store or a nasty conference call with a belligerent customer might lead you to believe otherwise.  Writing a blog can evoke other people to share their stories with you.  You will be encouraged by their stories, their dreams and their cool projects.

Today, I had a great conversation with a guy who was sharing my eBook with his fellow co-workers.  They are in the middle of a corporate restructuring and instead of feeling helpless he was offering them encouragement, “You ought to read this”.

Ready to get started?

How to setup a blog in 20 minutes or less-Michael Hyatt’s instructions.

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This is an invitation to unravel what the world has taught you.

Early praise for Don’t Quit Your Job. Fire Your Boss.

“This absolutely beautiful book is a true whack of the truth on the side of your career.”

Seth Godin, Author The Icarus Deception


“I loved this book. Reader beware: this book will call you out and into your best work.”

Jeff Goins, Author, Wrecked


“This brave book helps you cast aside the unwritten contract of compliance and take control to start living the life you really want.”

Clay Hebert, co-founder WorkHacks


“Revolutionary. McHugh pulls the string that unravels a person and leaves them only with hope.”

Morgan Snyder, Author, Become Good Soil


Don’t Quit Your Job. Fire Your Boss. is for you if…

1. You want to enjoy going to work each day.

2. You feel confident that your career is too important to approach with apathy.

3. You want to gain greater influence at work.

4. You’re ready to explore new alternatives for finding recognition for your work.

After reading, you’ll be able to:

1. Establish a unique strategy for firing your boss.

2. Know how to obtain the freedom to offer your best in any job.

3. Understand why quitting your job won’t help you.

The Free offer

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No strings attached.

Yes, absolutely free. That means:

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And yes, I know this is a bad way (in theory) to “build a platform.”

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