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Permission Slip to Rest and Give Yourself a Break

I want to share what I’ve learned about rest.

Resting and being lazy is not the same. People like us can be pretty driven and focused. We can quickly feel like we are lazy when we stop down to rest or take a break. I used to think rest was for other people-tired people, older people, and weaker people. I thought, “I’ll rest after I finish this (project or task)”

The problem was that my list never shortened enough for me to feel like I could rest. So I kept driving hard instead.

Permission slip:

This email is your permission slip to cut yourself some slack. Take a break. Take a day off. Skip school. Skip work. Wear flip-flops. Punt on a meeting. Say No. Don’t go. Stay home. Call in sick. Be late. Take a nap. Do half as much and call it good enough. Tell “perfection” to take a flying leap. Go on a two-week vacation. Use your floating holiday tomorrow. See a movie at lunchtime. Stay in your jammies all day. Order pizza. Watch Netflix all day. Sleep in.

Schedule a meeting in your work calendar titled “Strategy planning” and go take a walk outside. Take a nap in your car at lunch. Let the kids do their laundry. Order takeout. Cancel plans with friends. Don’t attend the school fundraiser. Turn your phone off and let it go to voicemail. Go off the grid. Catch your breath. Be kind to yourself and say “enough, I’m tired.”

If you wrote yourself a permission slip for rest, what would it say?

Where do you need to let go? Drop? Quit? Pause?

Go ahead and write down a few things. It will be insightful to read the unedited list of stuff you’d like to shake free.

I uncovered the culprit behind my fierce alliance with driving hard. I had a core belief that I couldn’t rest because the seemingly important stuff wouldn’t ever get done.

Here’s a big idea, everything shouldn’t get done. Only the vital few and the rest may never make it on your list. Before we get to determine what is and isn’t important, you first have to permit yourself to let a few things go.

Once you allow yourself to rest, then you will be a lot more gracious with yourself in making the time to relax.

Micro rests have become my secret weapon as a regenerative energy source. Here are a few examples of how I’ve learned to Micro rest.

  • Take a 15-30 minute nap most afternoons
  • Take a walk outside between conference calls
  • Make a cup of coffee out of the trunk of my car at lunch
  • Schedule 15-30 minute blocks in my calendar between meetings

The objective is to do nothing during these Micro rest blocks. The goal isn’t to use these slivers of time to get more stuff done. People like us need our engines to slow down from living at high RPM’s and slow to an idle.

Trust me; you could use some rest. You’ve earned it.

Keep going,

Aaron

Permission Slip to Fail and The Voice of Empathy

Friends,
I think you might be able to relate to this story. I get quickly bummed out when I make mistakes. Living out loud for the world to see amplifies the smallest blunder.

Yesterday, I accidentally sent you the same email from last week. When I goof up, I can quickly start hearing the old tapes start playing from my Greatest Hits of Dysfunctional Beliefs

“Dude-you did it again. Nobody is going to take you seriously if you keep fumbling the ball. You should stick to selling technology and leave this writing and speaking thing to the pros.”

I can laugh about it now.

Here are a few things I’ve learned about upgrading my self-talk chatter.

  • I recognized the tapes automatically start playing.
  • I acknowledged the facts and quickly asked this question, “What would the voice of empathy and understanding say to me?”

EMPATHY “Aaron, you are juggling a lot right now.
Just tell your friends what happened.”

Friends, like you I am inching forward and learning as I go. The best part of making mistakes is owning them and moving forward quickly.

Thanks for being apart of this journey together. And thank you for the permission slip to fail with grace.

Keep going,

Aaron

To Find Each Other and Draw Closer

I taped this picture on the dash of my car over my speedometer to remind me of what I want. It’s taken from the crux scene in A Secret Life of Walter Mitty.

After years of lifeless decisions to play it safe, Sean O’Connell’s pinup photo on Walter’s billboard animates, and Sean’s fingers beckon Walter to risk stepping into the unknown.

I’ve heard enough of your stories to know that behind all of the specifics, we all long to feel connected, to be accepted as we are, to find each other and draw closer.

You’re enough.
You have what it takes.
You’re worthy of love and belonging.
Certainty is a myth.
Give yourself a break.
Explore your frontier.
Choose the people you love.

Keep going,

Aaron

Grown Bigger In the Bigness Of the Whole

I sent this picture to a friend. His response, “Call 911!”

Without a context, it is anyone’s best guess what this collection of misfits are plotting.

I’ll let you in on the story.

January 5th is the death anniversary of my favorite Antarctic explorer Ernest Shackleton’s. Ninety-five years ago, he led his men through a harrowing journey of survival and endurance.

Just for fun, we cooked up a roadkill stew, dressed in our best polar expedition costume and watched the movie Endurance in honor of Shackleton’s story.

Shackleton penned these words as he reflected on their two-year odyssey, “(we had) grown bigger in the bigness of the whole.”

Big stories are roomy enough to hold our desires, our dreams, and our hopes. Our Shackleton dinner was an excuse to connect with a more significant story together.

Our invitation could have read, “Do you want to come to dinner on Friday?” Which most would have replied, “yeah sorry we’ve got something already.”

Our invitation read,

Gents-

We hope you can make it to our polar expedition dinner.

MEN WANTED for hazardous journey, small wages, bitter cold, long months of complete darkness, constant danger, safe return doubtful, honor and recognition in case of success.

Join us for an intimate dinner in honor of the great Ernest Shackleton on the 95th anniversary of his death Friday, January 5th 2018. Like Shackleton, we’re going to huddle up for a cold winter’s brew, stories and whiskey. After our roadkill stew, (and possibly seal meat steaks-pending PETA approval) we will watch the PBS documentary of Shackleton’s epic journey.

@ McHugh’s home 38° 59′ 58.34” N 104° 48′ 4.51” W

-530 pm captain’s quarters reserve drams of whiskey

-630 pm food rations begin. rewards to the farthest traveled and best costume

-Movie

If your story isn’t big enough, write a new one. Invent a bigger container and grow bigger in the bigness of the whole. Smallstoryitis is contagious. Don’t allow it to infect you.

Keep going-

Aaron

Dreaming Big Can Feel Impractical

For some, dreaming big can feel impractical, illogical and “squishy.” You know – like half-baked, not fully cooked or in focus yet. But I’ve learned to like squishy dreams.Here was a dream that my wife dreamed of me three years ago.

At the time, it was a hemisphere away from my daily reality.  It felt improbable, even deserving of a polite nod. But I pasted it in my journal and held it as a hopeful someday.

“aaron…
JOY. FREEDOM. not a stressful job. bike job in the city for fun and fitness. bmw. simple but beautiful contemporary home. low maintenance. doing podcasts. mentoring/leading prominent business leaders. and/or upcoming young ones. not carrying such a heavy weight and burden for our family. freedom to P L A Y! to rest. to LIVE the life that you TRULY DEEPLY want. joy. laughter. such incredible laughter. friendships…deep friendships.”

Years later, my life looks a lot closer to her squishy dream. Imperfect, bumpy, and uncertain but we’re closer to living a sustainable joy-filled rhythm.

What squishy dream needs a voice in your life?

Chase the Sun To Fight Off Winter’s Frost

Colorado’s winter is short compared to Minnesota, but in our city, Colorado Springs, we still chase the sun to fight off winter’s frost. Here are a few local spots I’ve found to boost your vitamin D and internal happy meter.

Fuel before adventuring out

Loyal Coffee disrupts Colorado Springs in a Pacific Northwest way. (Photo credit Loyal Coffee)

Stay in your warm bed and lazily start your chasing the sun mini-adventure with Loyal Coffee’s artisan peppermint mocha. Expect a passionate riff from one of the six hipster barista-owners. Loyal is at the top of the pyramid of great coffee shops, and they love to evangelize their passion for excellence in coffee and their investment in our local community. Loyal’s aficionado roasted beans will arouse your taste buds attention from a potent swallow of espresso to a Spanish-originated Cortada-warm milk and espresso.

Don’t skimp-go for the soft boiled egg on toast and a sausage Po’ Boy. Bust your Palio diet and go carbs with breakfast grits to continuous fuel your winter outing.
408 S. Nevada Ave. Colorado Springs, CO.80903 (719) 235-5477

Cheyenne Mountain State Park

Fighting the brisk winter air with a warm brew trailside in a patch of Colorado sunshine.

The trick to staying warm on a cold Colorado winter day is to stay in the sun. Cheyenne Mountain State Park serves up 21 miles of low elevation trails between open-prairie and lightly forested single-track trails for of hiking and biking. Pick your line by setting out from Limekiln trailhead parking lot and aim towards the sun along the 2.6-mile Talon loop to the 3.3 mile Sundance loop trail. Leave the pooch at home, no dogs are allowed on the trails.

Directions: Take the South Academy Exit off I-25, just south of Colorado Springs, head west on S. Academy to Hwy 115. Make a left on 115, follow the signs to the park.

Open year round 9 am to 4 pm. 410 JL Ranch Heights Rd, Colorado Springs, CO 80926

Bygone Era Flavors by the barrel

Shake off the crisp air at Distillery 291 Whiskey tasting room with a flight of Wild West Whiskey. For $10 sip one of five distinctive whiskey’s replicas inspired by taste and stories from owner Michael Myers. Growing up in the heart of Tennessee whiskey country with nearby legends Jack Daniels and George Dickel serves up flight tastings of each spirit Wed-Saturday from 5 pm to 11 pm.

1647 South Tejon Street, Colorado Springs, CO 80905 (719) 323-8010

How To Go On a Colorado Winter Hut Trip

Ever wanted to get out in one of those pristine winter wonderlands? Grab your willing attitude, some adventurous friends, and a good plan. Here’s how to get started.

We improvised by adding an extra stick of butter to the pancake mix before we poured our first batch onto the wood-burning stovetop, our makeshift griddle for the extended weekend. During the middle of winter, 6 miles into the Colorado backcountry, eating hot pancakes and fried bacon are savory moments.

Pancakes on the backcountry griddle with enough butter to keep us warm (PC @justinlukasavige).

Two nights ago, our seven-man crew skinned up jeep roads and singletrack trails to our backcountry shelter, the Hidden Treasure Yurts. Staged in the last vestige of flat earth below the upper slopes of New York Mountain above Eagle, Colorado, our small band of merry adventurers came to carve turns in the pure Colorado powder and to savor its high country solitude.

Winter backcountry travel can seem intimidating for beginners, but you don’t need to be a polar explorer or wilderness survivalist to enjoy an overnight winter trip. Case in point: Yesterday, as we scuffed and mushed on skis, a convoy of giggling grade-schoolers whooshed past us as snowmobile passengers. Their school organized a 20-kid winter sleepover in the neighboring Polar Star Hut. Winter travel didn’t intimidate those youngsters.

Creating an enjoyable and safe winter backcountry trip is all about synchronizing your desired level of adventure with your team’s level of experience. Here are some tips to get you started as you dream up your winter wonderland exploration.

Our crew was pretty extraordinary. Everyone had spent a lot of time in the outdoors and were very comfortable in the winter elements (PC @justinlukasavige).

Choosing Your Backcountry Winter Shelter

Backcountry winter shelters are like Choose Your Own Adventure books: You’ve got options. Just turn the page to the version of adventure story you want to experience. See “The Luxury Spectrum of Winter Backcountry” for a full range, but the most popular are huts and yurts.

In Colorado, huts are permanent structures, but there’s a wide variety. Most are log cabins or homes outfitted with wood-burning stoves, warm beds, kitchens, electricity (often solar) and composting outhouses. Some qualify as backcountry luxurious and feature amenities such as indoor plumbing. But most likely, you’ll need to melt snow for your cooking and drinking water—true of yurts as well.

Front Rangers love the proximity to the 34 dwellings of the 10th Mountain Division Hut Association peppered across the center of the state from Winter Park, Breckenridge, and Vail to Leadville, Aspen, and Crested Butte. Many of the trailheads are within a two- to three-hour drive from Colorado Springs. Most of these huts sleep 16 people; some house up to 20. And it’s common to share larger huts with other groups of people.

Pro Note: If you see a log-mahal in your feature, plan ahead. Weekends in many 10th Mountain Division huts fill up a year in advance.

Although yurts have been popularized recently by the glamping wave and listings on Airbnb, backcountry yurts aren’t cushy. The giant teepee-like structures are supported by an endoskeleton-like wood frame and wrapped in an exterior protective layer of canvas or plastic. Sleeping in a yurt feels a lot like upgraded tent camping with beds and heat from a wood-burning stove, cozy but not always airtight.

Outside our snow cave cooking up a hot brew and melting snow. A lot tougher conditions than inside a yurt or hut.

The Luxury Spectrum of Winter Backcountry

Winter backcountry shelters from grit to luxury scale.

Snow Cave: Plan four or five hours to dig your 32-degree dwelling out of a snowdrift. Earns you Jack London Yukon cred. Don’t forget the whiskey.

Tent: Easy to pitch almost anywhere, but you can count on breezy and cold. Fight the chill by making a hot water bottle to slip into your subzero sleeping bag before bed. Hope for six hours of radiant heat.

Yurt: Canvas tent walls and wood flooring tap into the structure’s nomadic roots. You’re roughing it, but with a wood-burning stove, beds, and room to walk around.

Hut: Premier backcountry luxury. Some include indoor plumbing, saunas, and propane grills. Let your friends believe you’re Iditarod tough; you know you’re napping by a roaring fire.

Traversing the lower valley. New York Mountain basin in the background (PC @justinlukasavige).

How to Stick to the Green Runs

Most huts and yurts are strategically placed near tree line for sweeping views and nearby access to big skiable bowls. Before making reservations, make sure you understand the terrain and distance requirements for reaching your accommodations. If it’s your first winter backcountry outing, focus on having fun. Pick gentle terrain, and avoid approaches longer than 3 miles from the car. Select a shelter accessible via well-traveled, snow-covered Jeep road instead of steep singletrack trail.

For my first hut trip, we chose the luxury Shrine Mountain Inn, part of the 10th Mountain Division network. It requires a 2.7-mile ski approach from Vail Pass off Interstate 70. In the summertime, you could drive to the front porch, but winter requires a two- to three-hour ski or snowshoe trek.

Even if you’re heading for an easier-to-reach hut or yurt, make sure someone in your group has avalanche awareness training, as well as route-finding and first aid skills. And always pay attention to the conditions and avalanche hazards. Your route to your lodging could cross avalanche-prone terrain.

Want to go with a guide?

You’ve got options, but technically, guides must be authorized and permitted by the U.S. Forest Service. Websites such as huts.org list and link authorized outfitters.

Fresh powder made our trek snowglobe beautiful on our way to the Hidden Treasure Yurts (PC @justinlukasavige).

Choosing Your Mode of Travel

It’s essential to adapt your mode of winter backcountry transportation to accommodate your entire group. We spent five hours skinning up to the Hidden Treasure Yurt. It took our young, hot chocolate-mustachioed, snowmobile friends an hour to cover a similar distance. The question is which option best fits your crew and the level of adventure you want? Here are your options:

Snowshoe: If you can walk, you can snowshoe. It’s the exceptionally family-friendly mode of travel. You can rent snowshoes from Pikes Peak Outfitter for $15 first day, $5 following days. pikespeakoutfitter.com

Ski or Splitboard: Gliding on planks is a little more complicated, but even novices can ski to huts. You’ll just need some practice and preparation. Mountain Chalet rents several packages starting at $25 first day, $15 per following day. mtnchalet.com

Snowmobile: They’re highly discouraged and not allowed at the 10th Mountain Division Huts themselves. But some, such as the Sylvan Lake State Park or the Never Summer Nordic Montgomery Pass Yurts, are open to snowmobiles.

Enjoying the warmth of our yurt and an evening meal together (PC @justinlukasavige).

Packing and Prep

Self-reliance is part of the draw of the backcountry. You’ve got to carry your gear, but you can go light since your shelter is provided. Aim to keep your full pack about 20 to 25 pounds. Focus on layers for your clothing system. In winter, you want the flexibility to add or take off layers to regulate your temperature. Waterproof outerwear is a must. Spare dry socks are essential, and hut pros bring a pair of comfy slippers or footwear for lounging.

You’ll need other essential gear, of course. I carry a map and compass, fire starter, sunscreen, headlamp, knife and extra batteries. Plan to bring your sleeping bag. Beds are provided, but most huts and yurts don’t include bedding. Your ski or snowshoe setup will help you reach your destination. And safety gear such an avalanche beacon and shovel are highly required any time you head into the winter backcountry.

Plan on bringing your meals too. You can divide the consumable supplies among your group to share the weight. Go as creative or fancy as you like. Hut pantries usually have extra and leftover food supplies—why carry out the weight when you can leave it for someone else? In my experience, yurt pantry stocks are kinda sparse. When you make a reservation, you should get all the details about what to expect and plan for specifically for your backcountry palace.

Hang time by Alex Burton in fresh Colorado powder. Unbelievable conditions for repeated laps up and down (PC @justinlukasavige).

Snow Time

Back at the Hidden Treasure Yurt, my burly cohorts and I chase winter through the panoramic powder, skinning up and skiing down New York Mountain’s intermediate bowls. In between, we alternate trading laughs and carrying firewood at our toasty yurt. We savor the opportunity to go full analog: We read, play cards and board games, and swap fireside stories. At night, the sprawling Milky Way lures us out to wonder at infinity. Even a night or two in such a backcountry haven quickly refills my adventure bucket and deposits significantly into my friendships.

As our group stuffs now-lighter packs for the final ski run out, we celebrate the solitude we’ve enjoyed. But we can’t help but ask, Where is everybody? Don’t they know what’s out here?

Now you do.

Dropping the skins to take advantage of the down. Thanks to Mountain Chalet for my rental gear (PC @justinlukasavige).

Rely on Your Resources

Gather details on huts, yurts, and backcountry safety at these sites.

  • 10th Mountain Division Hut System: The granddaddy network and info source. huts.org
  • Colorado Hut & Yurt Alliance: A fairly comprehensive collection of other backcountry options.
  • Colorado Parks & Wildlife: State park have yurts too.
  • Pikes Peak Alpine School: Get avalanche safety and backcountry training.
  • Colorado Avalanche Information Center: Know the risks and reports before you go.
  • Mountain Chalet for Front Range online rental reservation system from packs to avalanche beacons
  • Outside Labs Media photography by Justin Lukasavige

This Field Report first appeared in Springs Magazine.

Aloha vibes from New York Mountain (PC @justinlukasavige).
Gaining the top of our New York Mountain run (PC @justinlukasavige).
Galaxies far far away are visible outside our Hidden Treasure Yurt (PC @justinlukasavige).

Destination: Mountain Biking Fruita & Moab

My buddies and I have always wanted to ride the world-class singletrack of  Fruita, CO and Moab, UT. Between planning a wedding, gaps of unemployment and a stolen bike, it seemed this trip was never going to happen. Enough excuses. My great friends and riding bros, Zack and Anthony, decided to ditch work Friday through Monday, book an amazing AirBnB in downtown Fruita and head west.

Day 1 – Departing Colorado Springs to Fruita

Zack, Anthony, Myself and Cannoli (The Italian Greyhound)

 

We pressed through the 5 hour drive from Colorado Springs to Fruita, dropped bags and hit the first trail: Zippity Loop: 8.5 miles of quintessential Fruita.

18 Road Trails. PC: Zack Robinson

The 18 Road Trails holds 51 miles of classic Fruita singletrack. Located in the North Fruita Desert, the system is full of flowing singletrack, exposed ridge lines, fast descents and big vistas. Every mountain biker’s dream.

Day 2 – Ride #1: Palisade Rim Trail, Palisade, CO

Fully fueled by our AirBnB host’s home-roasted java, we headed east to Palisade, CO. Rumored by locals to possess a lesser known clone of the famous Moab classic Porcupine Rim, Palisade Rim trail.  The perfect Moab pre-game warmup packing more singletrack and fewer people per mile.

Overlooking Palisade, CO.

We heard there were exposed sections on this trail but were delighted by the amount of singletrack exposure the Palisade Rim trail delivered. After our satisfying lung burner, we headed to the Palisade Brewing Company for IPAs and eats.

Zack exposed.

Day 2 – Ride #2: Kokopelli Trail System

For our afternoon ride we aimed for the Kokopelli Trail system to tackle the popular Mary’s, Horsethief, Steve’s & Wranglers loop ride. The Kokopelli trail system overlooks the Colorado River and offers terrain for all riding abilities. Included is the intense technical Horsethief Bench drop-in, flowy and fast singletrack, slick rock features, fast desert berms and canyon rim exposure. Check out the video below of pro rider, Nate Hills making the technical Horsethief Bench drop-in look easy and then continue on Horsethief trail.

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Overlooking the Colorado River.
The Usual Suspects Anthony and Zack, posing for their hero shot before climbing back home. 

Day 3 – Moab bound: The Whole Enchilada

Next stop, Moab, for the epic Porcupine Rim (PR) trail. PR is the lower segment of  The Whole Enchilada (TWE), one of the top rated rides in the world. TWE begins high in the La Sal Mountains, descending 8,000 ft to Moab’s desert floor. Snow in the La Sals limits access to The Whole Enchilada during summer and fall. Our Moab shuttle pushed as high as snowpack allowed and delivered us 6 miles from the top. Leaving us to descend Upper Porcupine Singletrack (UPS), Lower Porcupine Singletrack (LPS) and then Porcupine Rim back to Moab.

Anthony & I with the snowcapped La Sal Mountains in the background.
Anthony owning that classic Moab slickrock.
PR exposure.
Taking in the Colorado River.

Our total ride over-delivered on 23 miles of some of the toughest, most bone jarring riding I’ve experienced. Next time: I look forward to covering some other classics: Mag 7, Slickrock, Captain Ahab and of course, the unridden sections of The Whole Enchilada.

Day 4 – Exploring a hidden gem: hiking Hanging Lake

Monday was mostly a travel day complete with an adventure hangover. To criscendo our epic adventure, we stopped outside of Glenwood Springs to hike to the highly trafficked Hanging Lake.  Our reward for skipping out of work: we practically had the place to ourselves.

Hanging Lake, CO.

Stop delaying adventure

I felt refreshed from dedicating an entire trip to adventure. Waking up and having nothing to do but explore new trails with friends. No social obligations, social media fear of missing out, chores, etc. Fully disconnected from the outside world, but totally connected to ride.

My lessons learned:

  1. Take the trip that you’ve delayed.

  2. Call a few friends to sell your idea.

  3. Find someplace cheap to sleep.

  4. Do some research (or not).

  5. Come home with unforgettable memories.


This guest post was written by Kyle Spinuzzi, mountain biking adventurer. Kyle lives in Colorado Springs, CO and most days you’ll find him exploring a knobby tire trail along the Front Range. Want more details on his adventure? Follow him on Instagram.

Annual Review: Taking an Honest Look at This Year

After interviewing Guy Kawasaki this month, I realized that my mantra is “Live on Purpose.” Everything I do here on Work Life Play is fundamentally undergirded by my passion for purposefully shaping our lives, our relationships, our rest, our finances, our friendships, our careers and our adventures. [Download the annual review guide here]

We have two routes: choose a life we want or allow life to happen to us and be surprised with the results.

We can’t guarantee a result or an outcome, but we can increase the odds of creating an effect we want. Living on purpose requires our active engagement and minimizes the number of surprises.

My friend sent me this quote from poet David Whyte,

“Ten years ago I turned my head for a moment and it became my life.”

Instead of turning our head, let’s take an honest look at where our actions, our beliefs, and behaviors are leading us.

Year in review-Taking an honest look

I’m taking a look back over my key life accounts to measure and evaluate how effectively I’ve achieved my goals in 2017? When I use words like “evaluate” and “measure” I am not talking about charts and graphs. I’m talking gut-level response.

It is a lot easier to make small course-corrections now than waiting a decade and attempting to repair a big misstep. Goodness compounds over time and neglect has sneaky repercussions.

Taking an annual inventory enables us to overlay our pathway walked with our intended route.

-Where were we on target?

-Where did we lose the trail for a while?

-Where are we heading next?

-What are detours not worth repeating?

The goal is progress, not perfection and writing out your annual review gives you the ability to watch your progress over time.

How I start my annual review

I write down these questions (see below) in my journal and on big sketch pad sheets on my office wall. The combination helps me to visualize my life categories and easily highlight account deficits.

I start by hanging a couple of blank pages on my wall and title each page by life account:

  1. Relationships
  2. Work
  3. Physical fitness
  4. Spiritual wellness
  5. Money
  6. Adventure.

Below are the questions I consider by category and life account.

These are not in priority of importance, but I have numbered them for simplicity. Consider the below exercise as a tool to get you started.

#1 Relationships

  • Marriage
  • Kids
  • Friendships
  • Co-workers
  • My community

Questions I ask about my Relationships

  1. Are we connected?
  2. Do we enjoy each other?
  3. How did I prioritize them in my daily life?
  4. How did I invest my time and attention into these relationships?
  5. What do I hope they would say about our relationship?
  6. What shared experiences did we share together this year?
  7. What didn’t go so well?
  8. Next year, what do I want to do differently?
  9. Specifically, what will I do about it?

#2 Work

  1. Am I proud of the work I am doing?
  2. Would my twenty-year-old self-be proud of the work I am doing?
  3. Am I honorable in all of my affairs?
  4. What did I accomplish?
  5. What am I most proud of?
  6. What do I regret?
  7. How could I have done it differently?
  8. What surprised me?
  9. What went better than I expected?
  10. What risks did I take?
  11. What disappointed me?
  12. How did I exercise personal empowerment in new ways this year?
  13. Where did I play it safe-hold back?
  14. What do I want to do differently next year?

#3 Physical fitness

  1. How do I feel?
  2. How is my overall fitness? Do I feel my age-younger-older?
  3. Was I consistent? Infrequent?
  4. What am I proud of?
  5. What do I specifically want to improve?

#4 Spiritual fitness-wellness

  1. Are we connected?
  2. If not why? What’s in the way?
  3. How consistent is my daily routine?
  4. What am I proud of?
  5. What were my favorite spiritual moments?

#5 Finances

  1. How much money did I save?
  2. What is my net worth now v.s. last year?
  3. What did we do for fun?
  4. What did we do for good? Who did we help?
  5. Where do I feel behind?
  6. What new progress did I make this year?
  7. What do I need to do differently next year?

#6 Adventure

  1. What significant experiences did I go on?
  2. How did I pursue adventure in my everyday life?
  3. What new local micro-adventures did I go on?
  4. Who did I pursue adventure with? How did it go? Would I go with them again?
  5. What adventures am I cooking up for next year? Big and Small.

Resources

Download a PDF version of  the annual review guide here.

Chris Guillebeau’s Annual Review-The Art of Non-Conformity
Chris generates an annual review post every December. He is a master at accomplishing some big things like traveling to every country in the world by age 30 and writing five best-selling books.

Living Forward: A Proven Plan to Stop Drifting and Get the Life You Want
By Michael Hyatt and Daniel Harkavy, this life hack is a very tactical translation from your goals and desires to practical daily steps to living forward.

Check Engine Lights and Life Dashboards
Creating a life dashboard is a simple first step applying similar ideas to rating your life accounts with a Green, Yellow, or Red color coding. This is the easiest place to start if you’ve never done anything like an annual review.


2016 My Annual Review of my category for Work
2016 Annual Review of Life category. We had some really difficult experiences in 2016. As well, some really beautiful experiences also. It is good to highlight the low points and high points.
2016 Annual Review of Adventure and play. I had a pretty great year.

Leave No Good Thing Left Unsaid

I have an experiment for you. I know the holidays are stressful, over-scheduled, over-spending, over-eating and lots of time with friends and family. Here’s my idea-What if we left no good thing unsaid?

We spend a lot of time with family during the holidays, and that can be very stressful. I heard once, “The reason they know how to push your buttons is that they installed them.”

So if our buttons can be pushed quickly and we can push buttons with other people just as fast, what if we made a different choice this year?

What if we lead with love and grace instead?

One Christmas I realized I’d not entirely told my friends and family how much I loved them, individually, why I loved them. I thought maybe Norman Maclean was right, “It is those we live with and love and should know who elude us.” Why is it so difficult to speak a good word over the people we love most?

At their funeral, we would gush “He was my favorite uncle, I loved how he always asked me about my life.”

My challenge to us all is this holiday season,

  • we write a note, a letter, a card
  • an honorable toast
  • we give an extra-long hug

and tell the people that you love most why you love them.

Sure it could go sideways, they could misunderstand, but I’ve found when your genuine motive is love, that’s easy to receive openly.

Hold your tongue on the tough stuff this year. Don’t worry it will be there next year too 🙂

Say the good things that are true inside, but rarely are expressed to the people you love most.

Don’t wait until they are gone to say how much you love them. Take the opportunity to tell them how valuable they are to you now.

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