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Colorado Springs Wildfire: Inventorying What You Love

Colorado Springs Wildfire: Three miles from my house

Colorado Springs Wildfire 2013

There is a wildfire burning three miles from my house right now.

I took this picture yesterday at around 1 pm.  This area of our city is called Black Forest.  There are hundreds of gigantic homes on two to five acre lots.  We have friends who live in these neighborhoods and all of them are evacuated and waiting to hear if their homes are still standing.

My family and I are on voluntary evacuation as we directly border the mandatory evacuation area.

We went room to room with our iPhone capturing video of our belongings in case we need to provide proof to our insurance company.

I think our home should be fine.  Last year the Waldo Canyon Fire jumped the ridge and traveled three miles in under an hour.

So we are not entirely out of the woods just yet.  More coverage on the Black Forest Fire.

Four hours after the fire began

Inventorying what you love

It is very telling when each person in your family has to go through their personal belongings and determine what they can’t live without.

We have gone through this drill two summers in a row.

The list ends up being much smaller than you would think.

Since we have three cars now with a teenage driver, we could afford to be more liberal in our limits.

Before I tell you what did make the cut, I’ll let you in on what didn’t.

Everything that can be purchased in a store was shrugged off as not imperative.  TV’s, Computers, furniture, clothes, kitchen appliances, all of those things scored low on the lover meter.

In some ways these things even feel heavy.  We’ve heard it a hundred times that the stuff we own weighs us down.  When inventorying our home, 95% was stuff we could live without.

To give you the full story, we lost our twelve-year-old daughter two and half years ago.  Hadley Rae McHugh’s life changed us forever including what we know we can’t live without.

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What did we bring with us?

We each packed a suitcase of clothes, my laptop, precious keep sakes, a couple of comforts like pillows and stuffed animals.

My son is the biggest minimalist, so his suitcase was filled with his favorite DVD’s, a few clothes and Hadley’s oxygen tube that was removed from her before she passed.

My daughter is the pack rat so she grabbed as much as we would allow including 74 lip-glosses and eye masks.

My wife loves here Lulu Lemon wear, wedding album, photos and a few of my daughter Hadley’s things.
In some ways she would like a new beginning.

I grabbed a stack of cards and letters that my family has given me over the years.  I pulled the family hard drive, my two bibles, a couple of journals and a bunch of gear.  The gear can be replaced but my thinking was “I don’t want to wait two months for an insurance check and not be able to fish, ride, climb, hike, swim.”

Defining wealth by what really matters

It turns out that wealth in our family is defined more by who we are with (each other), a few memories that we want to retain and a few comforts if we were living on friend’s couches for a bit.

Our actions reveal what we believe.  I am proud to say that our family defines wealth largely by the things that cannot be purchased.  Wealth is a feeling and a belief more than a balance of our checkbook.  Some of the wealthiest (financial) people I know are displaced from their homes struggling with the same question.

“What makes me wealthy?”

I wonder how these exercises of inventorying our things will influence how we live our future?

Job Seeker Take Some Free Advice

(Photo by SaveMoney Creative Commons)

Standing out from the crowd really isn’t that difficult.

Most people just don’t seem to give it much thought.  Or they would choose differently.

Job seekers, please accept some free advice.

99% of your competitors will not do these things.

Fundamentals

  1. Act like a Pro and you will be treated and recruited like one.
  2. Don’t misspell the person’s name that you are interviewing with.
  3. Run spell check on all written communications.
  4. Create a digital portfolio, not just a resume.
  5. Don’t rant on your Facebook page and expect your prospective employer not to read it.
  6. Create a LinkedIn profile now.  If you have one, constantly update it even if you are not changing jobs.
  7. Ask your peers, co-workers, customers and bosses for LinkedIn endorsements.  Remind them you are just keeping your profile current.
  8. Create an email signature (even if it is Gmail).

Format for your email signature

  • Name
  • Title (the job you want to be hired for or what you bring to the table)
  • Phone
  • Email
  • LinkedIn profile or digital presence.  Facebook is not what a company is looking for.

Best Practices

  • Go to Vista Print and create a free pack of personal business cards.
  • If your references are discussed, then provide them immediately.
  • Prepare a separate document for references.  Do not email them typed into an email.
  • Convert all word docs into Adobe PDF.

After the interview

  • Write a hand written thank you note and mail to each person you met with.
  • Provide evidence and proof of what you’ve accomplished.

You will be surprised how few people actually do any of these things.  

But you’re not like them.

Good luck.

Why Our Nanosecond Love Affairs Won’t Last?

We live in a world where time is now measured in nanoseconds.

Every few nanoseconds, a new alert pops up on our screen and our attention is diverted to this nanosecond’s interruption.

We invite the interruption.

Somebody follows us, somebody likes our picture or somebody favorites our Yelp post from that cool hipster restaurant we visited last week.

It’s easy to get some love, but it has never been more difficult to maintain the love.

Nanosecond love affairs

Think of it.

How many times do we find a new band, a song, a blog writer, or news article and we offer all our love.

Then a nanosecond later we are onto our next love affair.

There is an unending stream of new (fill in the blank) begging for our attention.

Nanoseconds of fleeting love, then our screen flashes and we move onto our next love affair.

Sustainable

Sustainability should still be the goal.

It’s exhilarating to get “liked” or “followed” right?

Or at least it feels like a nice gesture of confidence or appreciation.

Competing for attention has never been more difficult.

Simultaneously the opportunity for reach has never been greater.

How will we leverage the greatest opportunity in history (reach) with the problematic challenge of unending choice every nanosecond?

How will we find a few sustainable lovers?

How to Love People, Pick Yourself and Watch Less TV

Writing on the plane  

Writing a blog will change your life.

Here is my list on why you should write a blog.

1) Pick yourself

Why wait to be noticed, chosen, picked, plucked, watched, captured or picked up?

Instead go for broke.

They are tough odds to attempt to gain attention from people when they have 160 million other blogs to choose from.

My theory is it might as well be you that get’s picked.  Start with picking yourself.

2) You’ll watch less television

I am all for mindless moments of life, yet I can only do so much of it.  Writing a blog will reduce your television vegetative state.  When you download the calendar scheduler for WordPress you will quickly feel the Type A responsibility to not be a slacker and get working on your next post.

3) You’ll meet people you would never meet

I love meeting new people.  It is absolutely amazing who you will meet, the context in which you will meet them and how you will mutually help each other.

Check out our friends Carter and Brooke who just got engaged.  His whole engagement video was shot with a guy who he met on Instagram.  People they met through Instagram hosted an engagement party for them in Portland OR.

This video is their story.

Their video was recently featured on the worldwide Instagram community.

Yes I know she is pretty.

CARTER AND BROOKE // THE ENGAGEMENT from Colin Cabalka on Vimeo.

4) You never know where it will lead you

I’ve been hired for consulting gigs, had people stop me at dinner parties, my seventeen year old son thinks I am fairly cool and the future feels brighter.
All because I risk putting words and ideas onto this digital page.

Doing nothing new today will provide you a 100% guarantee that nothing new will happen.

Start risking today and you’ll be surprised how many things you’d think would fail just might work.

You won’t believe who will say “Yes” if you just ask.

Adventure is around the next corner.

Here is a quick list of some of the massively interesting people I have met because of this blog:

Jeff Goins blogs @Goinswriter

Srinivas Rao blogs @ The Skool of Life

Jeremy Stratton blogs @Living Better Stories

Todd Henry blogs @The Accidental Creative

5) You will live with more hope in humanity

People are inherently good, yet any trip to the grocery store or a nasty conference call with a belligerent customer might lead you to believe otherwise.  Writing a blog can evoke other people to share their stories with you.  You will be encouraged by their stories, their dreams and their cool projects.

Today, I had a great conversation with a guy who was sharing my eBook with his fellow co-workers.  They are in the middle of a corporate restructuring and instead of feeling helpless he was offering them encouragement, “You ought to read this”.

Ready to get started?

How to setup a blog in 20 minutes or less-Michael Hyatt’s instructions.

How I Turned a Seven-Hour Layover into Aloha

Anyone who travels for business knows that it is not glamorous. Anyone who says Oh but you get to eat in great restaurants has not traveled for business. Those of us who spend days and months away from home each year know that it wears on you.

We’ve all seen the magazine columns for “Road Warrior” that teach you how to work your abs while sitting in your fuselage seat. On the road it can be difficult to eat healthy, exercise and sleep well.

Recently I found myself at the Philadelphia, PA airport with seven hours before my flight left for Denver and I decided to run an experiment.

The experiment

Could I spend less than $75 ($10 x hour) and actually turn these seven hours into an enjoyable experience?

It’s easy to sit in front of your computer or drink too much.

Instead could I arrive home refreshed, having exercised and eaten well?

Here is my story.

I hope you enjoy and are encouraged to alter your next layover into some Aloha.

Put on some tunes and plug in your headphones

I’ve found that they very first place I have to start is by plugging in my headphones and tuning out the world around me.

Generally I’m pretty sensitive to environmental noise and plugging in allows me to alter my environment.

My buddy Matt Toth taught me this trick.

It is amazing how much this can help improve my mood and upgrade the quality of my input.

Get out the walking shoes

I always travel with running gear.

Even if I think I may only get in 10 minutes on my trip, I still pack them every time.

I’ve been a runner for over twenty years and for me there are few rivals to refresh me like exercise does.

I find it telling that you can find almost anything in an airport but a gym.

You can find casinos, booze galore, food-food-and-more-food, but no gym.

I asked one of the information booth employees “Do you have a gym”.

Her answer was really smart, “No, but if you want to walk all the way to the end of the terminal and back I hear it is a mile”.

Game on.

Headphones in, running shoes on, I walked back and forth end-to-end for an hour.

It was awesome.

I felt like I was getting at least some form of exercise and was able to scout other options for Aloha in the airport terminals.

I think I ended up with somewhere around 3.5 miles.

I wore out my suitcase wheels and have to now repair them, but it was worth it.

Choosing rest and restoration

Interior of a Minute Suites provided by Minute Suites

As I walked up and down the terminal, I passed a massage place, shoeshine booths and a Minute Suites.

I’d heard about these mini-rooms that you could rent for an hour, take a nap, watch some Netflix or just get away from the crowd.
(Read more on Minute Suites –NY Times by Christine Negroni)

As I passed the Minute Suites seven or eight times, I debated through the list of excuses “that’s too expensive” or “you can sleep at the gate”.

I was running an experiment right?

$36 to take a nap for an hour, in private, with no outside noise, in the dark, with clean blankets and pillowcases?

Sold.

It was really a nice break.

I was shown to my private quarters, asked if I needed a wake up call and got the quick orientation on how to run the TV and thermostat.

An hour nap and I was a new man.

Fresh food and wine

I found a nice little wine bar and ordered up a fresh cheese and fruit plate.

Nothing extravagant but I sat underneath a patio furniture umbrella seated around potted plants and trees.

It was almost like I was outside.

By this time, I’m back on email and responding to work needs.

The difference is I've got a shxx eating grin on my face.

What’s your story?

Would love to hear your Road Warrior stories.

Feel free to share your tips in the comment section of this post.

Minute Suites locations

Hartsfield-Jackson Atlanta International Airport
Concourse B at Gate B15
(404) 762-7660
Philadelphia International Airport
Terminal A-B Link
(215) 937-1076
Dallas-Fort Worth International Airport
Terminal D at D23
(972) 973-4235
Now Open!

Christine Negroni

Readers-check out Christine’s travel blog www.gohowknowhow.com
She is a career journalist, author and featured in television and magazines.
She has more airline miles under her belt than we might have collectively between us. 

Check out her portfolio. 

Resumes are Analog. Create a Digital Portfolio Instead.

In this digital age a black and white resume in Microsoft Word is an analog solution to explaining your career.

A digital portfolio is the modern solution for career professionals who desire to distinguish themselves from the herd.

With this approach I have been able to significantly improve my career options and increase my total compensation by 50%.

If you’re not in the middle of a career change, forward it to a friend who you know is.

Better yet, forward this to a friend that you know should be changing careers.

Raising money and your career change

You should approach your career change like you were raising money from investors.

If I was trying to raise money from investors what is their bottom line question?

“If I invest my money in you, will you give me a better return than if I invested in someone else?’

Let’s start with these questions

  • What have you done before?
  • Are you better than everyone else?
  • How do we know you can do it again?
  • What kinds of results can you provide?
  • What do other people have to say about you?

This is not a shortcut

This approach is guaranteed to be the long and narrow road.

Creating a career portfolio will take longer, more effort and more risk.

Most people will never put in the work to differentiate themselves from the herd.

I’ve never enjoyed the herd.

They seem to like words like predictable, normal, steady and reliable.

Their results usually seem to be congruent with those terms.

Making the decision to leave

Two years ago I realized I needed a career change.

After exhausting my wife from listening to my woes for years, I started putting plans into action to leave my job.

I was running a small software division for a product and team that I helped take from a whiteboard idea to a market ready product.

We were experiencing success and arguably things were about to get easier.

But I was loosing heart.

I really enjoyed the job and the challenges in the marketplace.  The environment was tough.

I started to dream of what “better” really would look like.

The shift begins to be unavoidable

I used to become very agitated with myself.

Why can’t I just settle in like everyone else?

Why can’t I be agreeable and compliant like those other people?

Why do I always have to make a ruckus?

Now, I have made friends with this recurring pattern in my life.

Every time I have changed jobs I get to where I can’t swallow the pill anymore.

What I used to be willing to accept or tolerate, I can’t anymore.

I don’t wake up on a particular Monday and say, “I’m not willing to do this”.

It is more of a gradual internal shift over many months or years.

My guess is that my story is a lot like yours.

  • Your daily passion gets easily deflated
  • You see warts where you previously pretended they were “beauty marks”
  • You heart is not in the mission anymore.

Each time I’ve arrived here, I realize that the best resolution was to remove myself from the story instead of continuing to try and change it.

I don’t like what resumes have become

I hadn’t created a resume in years.

It felt a bit overwhelming to get started.

By not having a current resume, I realized I was using it as an excuse for why I needed to stay compliant to the dysfunction.

“I need this job and I’m not prepared to make a move.  Suck it up.”

Over the years, I have read hundreds of resumes and most are predictably and painfully dull.

Most are full of alleged accomplishments, amazing feats and bulleted job duties.

I wanted to revolt.

Imagine that, me wanting to revolt.  I know it’s hard to believe.

So instead of adhering to the perceived standards, I was going to break the rules.

Anyone can create a one-page bullet list of job duties.

I wanted to create a portfolio instead 

Professional trades like Architects, Artists, Graphic Designers, Journalists and Software Developers all have professional portfolios.

A few years ago my brother the architect, started looking for a new job.

He spent weeks preparing an exquisite leather bound professional portfolio that looked ready for your living room coffee table. The contents documenting his accomplishments would have made Mr. Frank Lloyd Wright feel nervous to compete with these design chops.

It was so much more engaging than a black and white bulleted lists.

It told such a better story.

It was visual.

It offered concrete proof of what he had delivered, designed and created.

I was ruined.

Never again could I follow the norms of job hunting and schlep some drab 8 ½” x 11” text file.

Ideas are hard to put on display

My working career has been about the creation of ideas that translate into business value.

What the hell does that mean?

In Sales you don’t sell products (well some people do) you sell an idea of how a product can solve a business problem.

I offer ideas for a living.

As one of my favorite podcasters and authors, Todd Henry, calls it, Translating ideas into value at a moments notice.

Provide specific examples of accomplishments

Documentable accomplishments are obviously ideal proof of your career performance.

Point to a specific news article, press release or external reference source.

You offer your ideas in plain view.

Original thought is brilliant evidence of what business and organizational value you will actually bring.

I never intended to write publicly or keep up a blog.

Instead it was my version of a digital portfolio.

I believed it would provide a competitive differentiation between me and every other candidate in the CEO’s office.

Why a blog is a great start?

A blog (WordPress site) will enable you to provide a much more robust body of evidence of your career storyline.

In a traditional resume you are generally limited to a maximum of two pages in total.

With an electronic portfolio you have the luxury of progressively disclosing your career story through a series of small chunks of content with embedded links that are wired up to display your thoughts, ideas, pictures of projects, and documents.

The density of content that you can provide with an electronic portfolio would never create an effective stand-alone resume.

Don’t know how to get started?  Here is a link to Jeff Goins step-by-step setup guide.

Endorsements

LinkedIn has brilliantly capitalized on this premise of offering an aggregated collection of other people’s advocacy or endorsements of your work.

Other people's words about you hold more weight than your own.

Even better is what they are willing to write on your behalf.

If you have not pursued this age-old tactic, you better get started.

I utilized endorsements in my first sales job selling Radio advertising in the mid-90’s.  I was really young, and looked even younger.  My competitors had more experience than me, had better products to sell and were arguably better at sales than I was.

I needed help.

I started asking for endorsements from my customers.  In those days they actually pulled out a piece of company letterhead and typed a full letter.  I carried them around in a three-ring binder in clear covers.

When a prospective customer would ask “Why should I do business with you?”  I’d pull out the letters and flip through them and say, “Mr. Smith says you are in good hands with me”.

In essence the letters promised, Aaron does not lie, cheat or steal.  He is really smart and works hard.  Give him a shot.

Examples for you to steal

Now it is your turn to get started.

See my digital portfolio:

  • Bio
  • About
  • Endorsements

I am happy to provide you document templates to get you started.

If you need advice on how to ask for them, shoot me an email. Am@aaronmchugh.com

What My Lizard Brain Said When I Asked for Advice?

Don’t Do It!

Aaron
Lizard Brain what are you saying to me?

Lizard Brain
Your family needs you to not screw this up.  
Don’t be such a revolutionary that you get canned from your job.  
It takes more money than you have.  
It will require you to borrow money from your friends and family and you’ll ruin your relationships.  

Taken straight out of my journal from December 2011.

The Context

I was thinking about leaving my day job and not looking for a new one.

I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do for a living but I was sure I could not continue doing

  • What I was doing
  • Who I was doing it for
  • Where I was doing it

I knew I was scared.

  • Scared to change.
  • Scared to screw up a “good thing”.
  • Scared to be foolish.
  • Scared I was arrogant and that no one would want me.

I Went to the Lizard and Asked

What the hell are you so afraid of?  

What do you really think is going to happen if I quit?  

You are going to be destitute, broke, 
ashamed and ruin all of your relationships.   

Isn’t that just wonderfully ridiculous?

The concept of the Lizard brain is talked about a lot.  I love it.

It reminds me that I am not the only guy who hears crazy stuff like this.

Here is what happened instead.

Despite the Lizard’s advice, I resigned from my job in November of last year.

I didn’t have a job for four months.

I received phone calls from people asking me to work for them.

I am not destitute.

I didn’t spend a dollar of my savings.

I went to Hawaii and surfed with Mike Field and played in the sun with Sam Ainslie and Kevin Lynch.

I had sex with my wife at lunchtime.

I stopped using an alarm clock to wake up.

I walked my daughter to her bus stop most days.

I wrote an eBook that was endorsed by Seth Godin.

And the list keeps going.

Ask your Lizard brain what he is really saying.

Write it down.

Laugh out loud.

Show it to your friends.

And tell it what it can do with itself.

Get started.

Blog Posts I’d Like to Write

I started a new job two months ago.

At moments I have felt like Dell Griffith from the movie Planes, Trains, and Automobiles.

I have traveled seven weeks of the past eight.  Here is a quick list:

  • Dallas, TX
  • NYC
  • New Jersey x 3
  • Philadelphia, PA x 2
  • Tulsa, OK x 2
  • Des Moines, IA
  • Corpus Christi, TX
  • Houston, TX
  • Moab, UT
  • Chicago, IL

It has been good.  And I’ve had to put some of my sideline projects towards the back burner.

It is different than having four months off from full-time employment.

Last fall I resigned from my job and took some time to breathe.

It was by choice.  I purposed to have some time off.

Some people felt sorry for me as if I was down on my luck.

I guess the abnormal idea of pulling a Tim Ferris and actually taking a few months off work sounds too good to be true outside of a book?

I’ll give you a download on that story.  It is a good one.  That leads into this post.

I’ll invite you into my head

I’ve been thinking through a number of posts I’d like to write and thought I’d publish the list.

A couple of them are near ready to launch and some are only in my head.

Just so that you don’t think I gave up and threw in the towel here are my “Coming Soon” ideas.

How Do I Compete Against Myself?

IDEA:  It’s about working for a competitor to my old company.
Many of my ideas in the previous company are causing me challenges now at my new gig.
I never thought about the challenges of competing with myself.

Straddling the Fence of Success: Family and Work

IDEA: I’ve had numerous conversations recently about the tension of being successful in one or the other world.
Most people rarely get it right in both.  I’d like to flush out some thoughts on how to straddle the fence and succeed in both worlds.

Flush Your Resumes. Create a Professional Portfolio Instead

IDEA: I have an aversion to resumes.  Only because they are bland and boring and part of the conformist approach to career changes.  I have some tested ideas that I can share on converting to a professional portfolio instead.  This one is pretty close to complete.

How I Turned Seven Hours in an Airport into Aloha

IDEA: This one I am stoked about. I was stuck in an airport for seven hours waiting for a flight.  I turned it into a little bit of relief, relaxation and exercise.  I think I spent $60 and it was one of the best time’s I’ve spent in an airport.

Living Life, Observing Life and Commenting on it

IDEA: I find that some people are really good at living life.  Some people only observe life and don’t really participate.  Others are skilled at commenting on life but often on the life of others.  I am a proponent of all three.  I find a challenge in doing all three concurrently.

Why You Shouldn’t Follow the Rules to Build a Platform?

IDEA: I’ve been giving my eBook away for free and plenty of people have counseled me on why I shouldn’t.  I thought it would be helpful to share why you should break the rules of building a Platform.

Podcast: Why Everyone Should Have a Good Failure When You’re Young?

Interview with CEO, Gabriella Calicchio, Walt Disney Family Museum.
I toured the Walt Disney Family Museum in San Francisco in February.
It is phenomenal.   Especially if you have any interest in how ideas come to life.
During the tour, Walt Disney’s voice comes on and he speaks about his early failure in his career that resulted in his first sketches of Mickey Mouse.  Scheduled to release in May

Podcast: Interview with Todd Henry author of Accidental Creative

We are scheduling the interview for later in May.  More details to follow.  Check out his podcast, it’s one of my favorites.

Your Vote?

Would love to hear from you on which of the above titles might capture your attention and interest?

Let’s keep going.

No Cure For Bad Leadership

Did you know there is no cure for bad leadership?

No amount of pointing out the errors of their ways or negotiating or attempting to improve your reactions will change them.

Leadership is everything.

The long-term outlook of an organization or a company will always be impacted by leadership.

There will be a shrinking return on our investment when we are under bad leadership.

A great attitude won’t fix it.

A positive mental attitude can influence a lot of things, but bad leadership is not one of them.

The up-side

Sitting under bad leadership can influence and shape us to become better leaders ourselves.

Once we know what we do not want to do, how we do not want to lead or what we know not to say, we become better for it.

Redefining Success: #1 Never Gain Elite Status on any Airline

Redefining Success

Airline’s love to woo us with the allure of elite membership status.   They promise shorter lines, a six-foot stretch of red carpet we can walk over and the hope of free upgrades to roomier seats.

Here is what I learned the hard way

The only people who achieve Premier, Executive or Admiral status end up living a life similar to George Clooney’s character, Ryan Bingham in the movie Up in the Air.

Ryan spends less than two weeks in his own Omaha, Nebraska bed each year.  The movie profiles his almost tunnel vision pursuit of reaching the ten million mile mark with his airline of allegiance.

The tragedy of his story is that his quest for elite membership unfolds as a lonely reality of solitude and isolation.

After almost ten years of business travel, I’ve learned that if you have crossed the airline’s elite membership ticker tape then you’ve just lost at least 50 days of your real life each year.

Doesn’t having a wallet full of elite airline membership cards seems like an attempted payoff?  Shorter lines and red carpet walks are a poor trade for the days and nights spent away from my real life.

I revolt instead

What if we redefined success as never gaining elite status on any airline?  What if instead, we found a way to structure our life in such a way that stopped short of that reward?

Could we instead travel one fewer trip each month?  What if success was defined by not being rewarded for being away from home?

How close to the line can we walk? 

I shuffle my air travel between two to three carriers and successfully achieve no elite rewards.  Yes, I enroll in each of their reward programs but I attempt to never achieve the Premier, Elite, or Aviator, statuses.

My story

I travel a fair amount for my day job and end up spending 40 to 60 nights away from home each year.  Just even typing it I feel the conflict inside.  I love my family and love my friendships that await my return each trip I spend away.

For some business travel can be a nice deviation from their real life.

For me, real life beats any business trip.  I work for an international software company.  I travel because it is a necessary requirement to meet our current and future customers in the comfort of their conference rooms and offices.

Face-to-face meetings enable for a human connection to occur.  I utilize web conferencing technology like GoToMeeting or Webex regularly, but I also know when you simply have to be there in person.

I view it as a trade

I trade days and nights away from my family for compensation that enables for care of my family.  Some weeks I’m not so sure it is a good trade.  Using the principle of Dollar Cost Averaging for Life I settle in for the trend over time.

As you read this you see the precariousness of my goal.

I travel a lot but I value being at home.  I value caring well for my family and I am away from home a week or more each month.

The world will always tell us what constitutes success, but most of the world doesn’t live a life I want.

Redefining success empowers us to pursue our own target versus accidently achieving one that leaves us like our friend George Clooney.

How about you?

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